At the cancer center where I received my care, there is a rock garden – a meditation pathway of river rocks and bamboo, and a grand statue I passed on the way to every infusion. For the longest time I never knew its name. All I knew was that its presence commanded strength.
About five years ago, before my own diagnosis, I started gathering folks to paint rocks for that garden. We paint messages of positivity – You are loved. Breathe. Rise up. – and we leave them along the path. The intention is simple: if a person is having a difficult time, they can pick up a rock that speaks to them and take it with them. The energy put into each one transcends onto the recipient.
Years later, my daughter asked me what the statue was called. We looked, and found its title: Warrior. I got chills. Through every round of chemotherapy, I had focused on being a warrior rather than a worrier – and it turns out a warrior had been watching over that path all along.
When you walk the garden now, you see all these colors and the most special messages, some left in honor of those who have gone before us. It is such an uplifting thing, and it costs almost nothing. Which means anyone can start one.
How to start a rock garden of hope, anywhere
- Ask first. A hospital garden, a church courtyard, a community center path – a quick yes from whoever tends the space.
- Gather a few people. Painting together is half the medicine. Smooth river rocks, acrylic pens or paint, a clear sealant.
- Write from the heart. Short words carry far: You are stronger than you know. Not alone. Keep going.
- Leave them, and let them go. The rocks are meant to be taken. An empty spot means it worked.
To reflect
Is there a place in your community that could hold a little more hope – and what small thing could you leave there?